When Is It Too Late To Chase A Dream Of Playing Professionally?

Quincy Amarikwa

The #AskASocerPro show is a Live video podcast where 11 year MLS vet and Mental Strength Coach Quincy Amarikwa dives into the mentalities of highly successful individuals both on and off the pitch. In this weeks episode Quincy Amarikwa discussed about starting own private training company, How can one go pro and more.

Time Stamps

0:00-2:59 Quincy Prepares for the show, driving

3:00-7:06 Welcome to the last double-digit installment of the #AASP Show!

8:50-10:05 Get your MSL merchandise today for the holidays!

12:38-17:55 What to do when you begin to lose your mental game? @joe.jackson11

18:43-20:35 Any tips on starting your own private training company?@k.23.hampton

21:01-24:30 How can one go pro during this time? @san_jose_earthquakes_memes

24:52-26:33 Did people react incorrectly due to the pandemic? @been._.jammin

29:00-33:13 How to deal with letting yourself become complacent with your spot on the team. @been._.jammin

35:30-38:36 Why does soccer in american revolve strongly around pay to play? @therealeldin

42:29-48:55 When is the best time to do less and why? @anisjaouad

53:04-56:12 When is it too late to chase a dream of playing professionally? @danielmedina_10

57:53-1:00:52 Thanks for stopping by for the last #AASP for the year, check back in January for our 100th episode.

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Quincy Amarikwa (00:00:00):

We're all here to ride the MSL waves. You mentioned the strength lead. I'd like to welcome you to another episode of the hashtag ask a soccer pro [inaudible]

Quincy Amarikwa (00:00:20):

What's going on, everyone. Sorry for the delay. I got logged out of the account and uh, shout out Connor or sorted me out. Get me over the login credentials, updated them as we've been making a bunch of updates to the program soccer platform and the purpose of the team and getting all of our things in alignment. So kicking it off with a huge shout out to Katar. What up Joe Jackson? [inaudible] I'm almost to my destination. So I'll park here. I'm not going to look at the screen. Tell I've come to a stop, but I wanted to make sure that I wasn't leaving anybody hanging up. I know you guys are always tuned in and ready to rock and roll for another episode of the hashtag [inaudible] episode tonight.

Quincy Amarikwa (00:01:20):

Glad to have you guys here and every Thursday, 6:00 PM, PST 9:00 PM EST. For those of you joining in welcome to episode 99. And for those of you returning you guys already know and understand that we discussed the plan of action for episode 100, as well as taking a few weeks off of the show to get the realignment to kick off 2021 full throttle. Uh, that is still the plan of action. So for those of you who are joining us here for today's episode today is your last day to get some questions answered before a couple of weeks hiatus. So if you've been on the fence or not sure, or don't want to know or wherever, make sure you drop your question in the chat box, make sure you ask the perfect sub community. Cause you know, they're rocking and rolling and they will answer questions to help me out because everybody understands the M S L men totality. That's the mental strength league. Um, it's a, it's a mind game where you're either a active participant or you steady getting played. You guys know what it is and I'm coming to a complete stop here so I can check out the screen and see who's joined in and say what's up. And um, here we go.

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There we go. So

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Let's see what we got here. Well, everybody's coming in S a I F see what's going on official coach Edgar joined in Liverpool fan page. The one known as Anthony Carley, a seven Oh three resell guy, Jonah anti-social girl, uh, official Edgar said, um, how's it going, Quincy? It is going well. Um, I think in brighter, brighter lights ahead. I think, um, Joe Jackson said saw you on the live earlier with, beyond the game. Yes. Um, if you guys didn't check that out, make sure you guys go and check out it. What is it? It is at_beyond.the.game underscore. I think that is their Instagram handle. Um, had a great conversation with them, uh, rode that MSL wave super deep. So if you guys are wanting to get, uh, a double dose of the MSL today, um, go check out that episode. I did with them earlier this afternoon, but thanks for stopping by Joe.

Quincy Amarikwa (00:04:12):

I appreciate that. Uh, David, Oh seven underscore 27 said what to do, what to do, what it does, what it is, what it isn't. Uh, the one on is Anthony. Of course, I watched this as I work out, I'm doing plyometrics and balanced drills at home as my dog, judges me love that layering call, that layering stacking your we even call it. That's just, that's just MSL stacking. We just made that up. You guys tapped into the free Quincy. You guys tapped into that yet. I feel like people are starting to get tapped into that frequency Quinn Spiration. Quinn's Pearcey it's a [inaudible]

Quincy Amarikwa (00:05:06):

Oh man,

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This all can't be a coincidence. Can it?

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Quincy Amarikwa (00:05:19):

Maybe now's the time to stop saying, I don't know. Yeah, maybe we don't want to put that out there. We don't want to put out that. We don't know. I don't know. I know what I know.

Quincy Amarikwa (00:05:38):

Uh, Trevor Willis, Ben jam and joined in, uh, Bashi said I'm a young, talented footballer. Well, you've come to the right place. If you're looking to get better at the game, both on and off the field and in and outside your mind, if you guys haven't made sure, make sure you go over to perfect soccer skills.com/p S T. That is P S T M perfect soccer team membership account and create yourself a free account. Get access to our books, tools, training center, and resources, because we're out here disrupting that pay to play system. Everyone gets access to all this knowledge cause you know what we do here at perfect soccer. Over-deliver value. Leave every exchange, having given more than we received. And we're here to sell you on the idea that you and the team you build is all you need to get to wherever you want to be in life and soccer. And, uh, I'm happy to have you guys here along the journey, especially this journey of 2020. We said it at the beginning of this year, but also the end of last year, the end of 2019. If you guys go back to episode, what? 49, 50 of the Assa soccer pro show we're talking about 2020 was a year of the vision. All about the vision you think people have woken up yet?

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What do you guys think? Are people aware now? Are people more aware, less aware? Self-aware that in practicing them three S's of self-awareness have you, did you take advantage of the time that the quarantine and the pandemic has,

Quincy Amarikwa (00:07:17):

Uh, given you let me know,

Quincy Amarikwa (00:07:25):

Uh, Joe Jackson said I've been losing my head in the, in the field for no reason recently. And I don't know why. Well, the flaw in what you're saying there is for no reason, there is a reason.

Quincy Amarikwa (00:07:37):

So there is a reason why don't, you know, why that's the question?

Quincy Amarikwa (00:07:52):

What is it that you need to do to gain understanding?

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Quincy Amarikwa (00:08:00):

And if you're struggling where to start or what to do, that's where you got the three S's of self-awareness that you need to reflect back on and use to understand or figure out where you could have gone wrong or what has gone wrong, or what has passed you by,

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As well as always being open to the idea that you may be wrong.

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Quincy Amarikwa (00:08:31):

Edgar, what's going on San Jose earthquakes means joined in what's going on. Thanks for stopping by Joe Jackson. There we go. Well, let's pin that. Thank you for that. Beyond the game queening, the one note is Anthony, that sounds like just a long-term winner's mindset saying you got to make a t-shirt out of that. Speaking of t-shirts and merch, it is the holiday season. If you guys have purchased yourself some MSL merchandise, uh I'm in your head backpack, mini balls match balls. I don't know what you've been waiting for. I really had, I don't know what you've been waiting for. Have you been waiting for me to tell you to do it? Well, if that's what you're waiting on here, I am letting you know to head it over to perfect soccer skills.com/store check out the store string has been doing a great job to add more Birch, uh, as time goes on. And if you guys have requests, send them in, we'll get those created and added to the stores as well, too. But it's time to, you know, purchase some, purchase a merge person, purchase some product, um, and, uh, and invest in yourself. Cause an investment in perfect soccer is an investment in yourself. An investment in, uh, in, um, in you is an investment in the future. And why wouldn't you want to invest in the future?

Quincy Amarikwa (00:09:53):

I don't see a reason why you wouldn't. Um, so do it, do it, do it N do it. Did I mention to do it? Uh, let's see what we got here. Um,

Quincy Amarikwa (00:10:16):

Quincy with the dad jokes, always cool. Labor pool, say coincidence. Uh, cry faces, uh, San Jose earthquakes meme said, are we still friends? Why wouldn't we be, uh, Christina joined in shout, uh, Christina. Um, I did her podcast. It was a couple of weeks ago now a couple of weeks ago. Um, if you haven't listened, please make sure you go and have a listen of the Luca. Uh, that's the Luca's mother, a huge supporter of the show and bend down in the MSL for some time. Um, so I appreciate that connection, George. What's going on, brother? I'm in your head as well too. How's stuff been what's going on in the DC universe? Uh, let's see. Ben asks, are people more aware and have people woken up aware of what woo aware of themselves and the BS that they tell themselves to prevent themselves from making progress and moving forward, adapting, growing growth mindset. Do you think you think people as a result of this pandemic are more open-minded or are more close-minded than they were before this started? And if in whichever you think, what makes you think that, like, what have you seen, that's telling you that what's your KPI? You know, what's your key indicator? How do you, how are you determining how you assess information and try to make predictions and plan for the future?

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Uh, George said we need the perfect soccer mom hat in the store,

Quincy Amarikwa (00:12:09):

Or, uh, I find

Quincy Amarikwa (00:12:12):

It was, but I appreciate you telling me that it isn't, I'm going to let Serina know that ASAP George, I feel like you, you brought that up to me in the past. And I said, and Serena was on and she saw that and said she was going to do it. So now she needs to be practicing a little bit more self accountability here. Everyone gets a smoke. Okay. The three S's applies to everybody. So I'm going to, I'm going to have to follow up with Serena

Quincy Amarikwa (00:12:39):

On that. Yeah.

Quincy Amarikwa (00:12:41):

Uh, Joe said self honesty, I think. Okay. There we go. So, uh, Joe took on my question and now is sharing his self-assessment. So, uh, he said self honesty, I think, let me screenshot

Quincy Amarikwa (00:12:54):


Quincy Amarikwa (00:12:56):

Let's keep that going. We've got to keep the lights going. Uh, I think my poor play recently could have been, uh, Oh, I think my poor play recently could be having an effect on my mental strength to the point where I'm getting angry at everything.

Quincy Amarikwa (00:13:11):

Okay. Okay.

Quincy Amarikwa (00:13:15):

So that's step one, right? So honesty. That's where you think. So you're starting somewhere. Okay. Remember we talked about it in previous episodes.

Quincy Amarikwa (00:13:25):

Um, something

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Doesn't make you angry. You make yourself angry. You're eh, you get angry with yourself because you don't understand. There's something you don't understand. So the frustration builds

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Up. So now we're,

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We understand where we are in a,

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In our mind

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Now, how do we reassess and re attack it from a new angle?

Quincy Amarikwa (00:13:51):

So how,

Quincy Amarikwa (00:13:54):

How are we wrong in what we were doing to get to where we are at this point in time, it doesn't mean that you were wrong. Just how could we be wrong? So let's think through that, that gives us the ability to rethink where we are and how we got there.

Quincy Amarikwa (00:14:09):

And are you

Quincy Amarikwa (00:14:12):

Playing poorly because you didn't do enough work to play well, are you playing poorly because you've done too much and you're becoming predictable, right? There's levels to it. And, um, you know, when I'm mentoring, uh, when I'm mentoring some pro players, you know, I talked to, I talked to a lot of players and many guys reach out to me at different points of time in their career where they're, you know, trying to figure stuff out and, and, um, understand where they are or try to create the future they want for themselves. And, uh, one of the ways in which I break it down is let's say there's just 10 levels of understanding. There's 10 levels the game, just to create context for this idea.

Quincy Amarikwa (00:14:55):

Well, yeah,

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Go from step one is novice. You don't really know anything. You're just a rookie you're showing up. And step 10 is, you're an expert. You're a veteran. You've been around the block and you, you know, everything. Right. Um, the beauty of it that I've come to understand is once you get to level 10, your greatest competition is level one, because level one has the advantage of not knowing, Well, 10 has the disadvantage of knowing and what do they say? What the saying is,

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Quincy Amarikwa (00:15:36):

Not what, you know, that'll hurt you. It's what, you know, that just ain't

Quincy Amarikwa (00:15:39):

So right.

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And that's what getting old

Quincy Amarikwa (00:15:46):

Would mean within this context, right? Yeah.

Quincy Amarikwa (00:15:50):

You got to a point where you've seen so much, you know, so many things that you are no longer open to the idea that you could be wrong, which now gives the opportunity for the next generation, the next group

Quincy Amarikwa (00:16:04):

To come and beat you and pass you by. Right. And you won't see it coming now. How can you,

Quincy Amarikwa (00:16:17):

You apply that to where you are in this moment

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And see where you are

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Relative to everyone else. Cause that's what, you know, that's how we everyone's comparing themselves to each other.

Quincy Amarikwa (00:16:34):

Um, but here

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With the MSN mentality, what we focus on is comparing yourself to yourself because the only person you're looking to beat is who you were the day before or who you were a year ago.

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Quincy Amarikwa (00:16:49):

Um, I was thinking earlier today, uh, I heard

Quincy Amarikwa (00:16:52):

The comparison is the thief of joy. Right. And as I was thinking through that, and I understand

Quincy Amarikwa (00:17:05):

That saying, and the point of it right, is just, Hey, focus on yourself,

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Focus on yourself.

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And once you get to a level and to, to a level that nobody else is on, are you so far ahead of everyone that you're now dumb or slow?

Quincy Amarikwa (00:17:26):

And if you're there do less, doing less, gets more.

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And that's a really hard concept

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To, uh, to understand.

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And you don't have a lot of experience yet, but hopefully this gives you a heads up. So you don't have to spend as much time to figure it out.

Quincy Amarikwa (00:17:55):

Ooh, okay.

Quincy Amarikwa (00:17:57):

You guys came correct for this end of the year episode. Uh, Oh, Portland, yo, what's up Ross, uh, suppo Portland underscore poor poetry. Uh, my old teammate, uh, rush shank from the Colorado Rapids, 2010 championship team, um, just started his, his merge company out in Portland. If you guys haven't checked it out, make sure you go give them a follow and say what up he asked me if I'm still, if I, if I'm still bowling. And I said only, only if we're putting money on the game, but you, you can't bring any food out until after the games

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Quincy Amarikwa (00:18:39):

Uh, man, good times. I had a great time with my time with the Colorado Rapids. Uh, K 23 Hampton said any tips or advice on starting your own training. I'm thinking about partnering with one of my mates and starting our own private training for younger kids. I think that's a great idea. Um, Oh, I, you know, that makes me think, uh, Ryan be pro general manager has been working on B pro programs for the last, what, like two years now, two, three years. And, um, we've got the weekly at home, uh, B pro training programs in the, in the back training center. I think that might give you a good baseline for how to get started with your friend. And it might even make sense to maybe partner on that. Um, so that's making me think about a bunch of other stuff. Um, I'm trying to get a, an individual in place who can work on partnerships for perfect soccer, reaching out D getting these collabs done, working with individuals who were wanting to do their own thing or private trainings, but kind of giving you the franchise model of how to do it under the perfect soccer brand.

Quincy Amarikwa (00:19:51):

So, um, K 23, if you're interested in partnering on that and working on that and helping us out with that, um, shoot an email to contact@perfectsoccerskills.com. And that kind of goes for anybody else who who'd be interested in coming on as an intern to the, to the organization or helping, um, in a capacity. Maybe you have experience with something in the past past you, you know how to manage social media, you know, how to make databases, you know, how to do graphic design, uh, editing services. I mean, I, I won't limit what anybody or anyone in this community is capable of doing. So if you, if you're down to, um, join the team and help help out, uh, we'd, we'd love to have you. So that's what I would say to them.

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Uh, the one known as Anthony said, Joe, I think you're putting way, much pressure on yourself for being perfect. No players perfect. That is correct. Perfect. Imperfect soccer is just something we're striving for because we know we'll never get there that allows us to follow our passion, which is what the P stands for. You guys know what it is. Um, uh, San Jose earthquakes memes had asked how can one go pro during this time of the pandemic? Uh, to be honest, I would say it's probably extremely difficult to go pro um, during this time, if you aren't already in the system or on path to be seen by those who are already in the system. Um, and I don't, I don't think that that changes for maybe another year. Um, I think the, you know, this shutdown and the now, you know, California just recently re shut down again.

Quincy Amarikwa (00:21:36):

I think this is going to have a massive impact in, in, um, in just the pipeline of everything substantially in the future. You know, like there's a lot of talent, a lot of people who are, who are getting left behind, um, in this. And I think it'll take several years for everyone to properly understand where the gaps are, where, how they happen, but I'm also optimistic that other, there are a lot of talented people right now who are rethinking a lot of problems and issues with the system as it was, as well as how to rebuild it much better. Uh, during this kind of hard reset, I felt like this was just a hard reset of the entire world. Unnecessary hard reset. And, um, I think a lot of, uh, innovative ideas and, and, um, individuals who've been working really, really hard in the, in the shadows.

Quincy Amarikwa (00:22:43):

Um, and by shadows, I don't necessarily mean behind closed doors. I just mean, um, working really hard, but ignored by most people. Um, yeah, a lot of people, a lot of great people have been doing a lot of great work for a very long time. I really think it's a matter of people refocusing their energy on sources of information that are much more accurate and in tune and have the right frequency. Hey, there we go. We tied it back. We tied it back to the, the core ethos of today's episode, episode 99, the frequency. Um, yeah. I just think that enough has happened to where people can understand and realize that they need to rethink how they think and where they're receiving information on. That's been educating them on how to think, but the MSL members and community have maximized their time during this pandemic. And, uh, the results of that I think will be exponential. And if you don't understand or know what I mean by the exponential effect, definitely go check out previous episodes, you know, does anyone in here know which episode I broke down linear versus exponential thinking, we can start doing, like, ask a soccer pro show a trivia. Now I think we have enough content and, and episodes start getting start taking it to another level. Ooh, I think we just leveled up everybody. So yeah. Who here knows which episode we broke down linear versus exponential thinking.

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The one that Anthony said bribe the teams, LOL JK. I mean, that's one way, uh, George had said she, as in Serena said she was going to do it. She was wearing it and never put it on the store. Um, um, I'm on it, brother. I am on it. Um, let's see what we got here. Uh, Ben Jammin had said, I believe people are more scared and unsure because of the pandemic, which caused tunnel vision of sorts. Unfortunately, I believe people have become much less self-aware in general. Oh, okay. That is a fair assessment. Um, yeah, so people got scared and rather than seeing it as an opportunity they saw well, see, rather than seeing it as an opportunity for growth and to challenge themselves, uh, people got laser focused in, on fear and, and protecting themselves. So playing defense. Um, so they actually slowed down rather than speed speeding up. Uh, it kinda ties into what I was talking about in terms of if you took advantage of and properly invested this extra time that you've had, that the whole world has never had in the past, how many degrees of magnitude, like output are you going to get as a result of it, like 10 X, a hundred X, a thousand X, 10,000 X, a million X.

Quincy Amarikwa (00:26:05):

I mean,

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How big are we trying to go with this? Everybody, If we're talking about a mentality software update for the world, that's a massive scaled project that I know we're up, we're up for or down for, because we're both, don't matter. Um, we're riding the wave. Let's see what we got here.

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Liverpool had said the fact that every player has a bad day, you're not gonna play. Uh, you're not going to play very well. Every game. You're going to have some obstacles to face, but it's how you deal with those obstacles. You face are going to keep you going. That is correct. That's that you guys again that's sounds like the community's just dropping them. Long-term winner mindset, uh, parables,

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Uh, insights, advice.

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Love it. That, uh,

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George had said Caleb's travel team, made it to the finals of the end of the year tournament. I posted a pic on my page and tagged the account. He did the I'm in your head for his friend Quincy that's what's up yo, reshare that, reshare that with me so I can see it.

Quincy Amarikwa (00:27:30):

I think I missed that. I missed that, but I'm glad,

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Glad you brought it back to my attention. I'd love to reshare it on

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My account. I love

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The support and the shout outs, everybody and everyone dropping them. I'm in your head emoji.

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Uh, let's see,

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Annette said, can you repeat that again? What would you like me to repeat? Or we could just repeat it on the replay. That's the best part about all this and people spam that heart button.

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Uh, Bannon said for me, I think my self-awareness has gone down a bit. I think this has actually helped me with regards to charisma and awkwardness. I've also become aware of my position with the team I am on. Okay. Um, this awareness of my place on the team has hurt myself, accountability and motivation to keep working at the rate I have been for the past two years loved that. That was to have two. Okay. So then let's break that down. Let me see.

Quincy Amarikwa (00:28:32):

So I'm scrolling

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Back up to make sure my context is

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Correct. Um,

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Uh, Ben said I'm really closing in on the end of the 10 pushup challenge. Who, how close are you?

Quincy Amarikwa (00:28:47):

Let's see. So making sure see. Okay. Yeah. So we broke down Joe, and then, so let me Regal that,

Quincy Amarikwa (00:29:07):

Um, myself. So I'll say it again. So I'm making sure I'm getting it dialed in. Okay. So for me, I think my self-awareness has gone down a bit. I think this has actually helped me with regards to Crismon awkwardness because, okay. So my self-awareness has gone down. It's helped me with career. I've also become aware of my position within the team I'm on. Okay. Okay. Um, I'm, I'm thinking through where you're at in your career, in, in your process. So, okay. This awareness of my place on the team has hurt myself countability. Ah, because you became aware, you became aware of your position not being as high or as favorable or as, as you believed before you started. Right? So you're basically, you felt defeated. You felt as though it's kind of twofold. It's kind of a, a ton of bricks hits you because you realize you're not as good as, or you're not in as great of a position as you one, you thought you were and two, you want to be, and you realize that there's a lot more work to do if you're going to actually achieve it. And then you have to rebuild your mentality

Quincy Amarikwa (00:30:08):

To, to be able to be okay,

Quincy Amarikwa (00:30:15):

Okay. With potentially not being good enough, but still doing the work to try to become

Quincy Amarikwa (00:30:19):

Good enough over time. Whew. Okay. And

Quincy Amarikwa (00:30:24):

I'm off with that. Let me know. But that's where I'm, um, that's what I'm getting from this hasn't been hurt myself, accountability, motivation. Right. Okay. So laying that over with this awareness of my place on the team has hurt myself, accountability and motivation to keep working at the rate I've been for the last two years. Okay. So this is also when I discuss in the past on choose a rate at which you can maintain for the next 10 years,

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Or actually choose

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A rate at which you can maintain for the

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Next hundred years,

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Your life. If you start making decisions based on, uh, your commitment to making it happen over the course of your life, you'll make the goals you set for yourself on a day-to-day basis, much more achievable. So you're less likely to get hit with a ton of bricks. Um, like that less likely it doesn't mean that you're not going to get hit with a ton of bricks and blindsided by stuff because you can't really avoid that. Or at least I've yet to find a way to, to avoid that.

Quincy Amarikwa (00:31:26):

Um, uh, so for instance,

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I see that you're closing in on the pushup challenge when you first started, I'm pretty sure you believe that it would be a lot easier than it was. And on that journey you realized, Oh wow, you stopped. Right. You failed. So then you started back over. I'm not sure how many times you tried and gave up, but it sounds like you haven't given up. Cause you trying, you've tried again and now you've probably gotten a lot farther this time than you did the time before.

Quincy Amarikwa (00:31:57):

Right? So if

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You make the commitment to, let's say doing the pushup one pushup every day or 10 pushups every day

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For the rest of your life,

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And that seems too big of a task, then maybe you'll break it back down to one push-up a day or half a pushup a day or a sit-up

Quincy Amarikwa (00:32:20):

A day.

Quincy Amarikwa (00:32:22):

And if you, if you break down your goals that way you'll actually build a solid foundation because it should be pretty easy for you to do one pushup every day for a year. And if that's too difficult for you to do, then that gives you a basis to like really self-reflect and think about like where you're at and are you really, are you really willing? You actually really want to get better at what you're talking about. Cause if you do making it commitment of just doing that thing once a day for the rest of your life, shouldn't be out of your ability. And if it is, then you gotta break it down even more. So hopefully that helps put a little context to that to help avoid unnecessary failure. Failure is necessary. We're talking about avoiding this unnecessary failure, a soccer dad for life said back again with the I'm in your head.

Quincy Amarikwa (00:33:19):

Emojis. Welcome, welcome. Uh, Joe Jackson. Thanks Quincy. I'm definitely going to be watching this back just to continue to get that stuff in my head. Of course. Thanks for always tuning in. Um, also I did an, an old, no room. No problem today. Dope. I, um, Ross is, uh, speaking of no room. No problem. Ross's birthday was I think last week, um, uh, shot him a text. I need to connect with him. Maybe I'll give him a call after this and see how he's doing or actually I need to call Sean Johnson back. And then after that, maybe I'll give him a call on my way back to the house. Um, let's see, uh, Kofi welcome. Welcome. Let's see. K 23 said that would be amazing. Quincy. I would definitely be interested. I'm not the most experienced, but I feel I can become great, especially because I want to go into coaching and personal training after my soccer career is over love that plan in the head and you gain experience by trying stuff.

Quincy Amarikwa (00:34:17):

Right? So, uh, what we've really been working on here internally, um, Elsie joined the team Sharday, joined the team and they've been helping us build our, um, our HR and our systems and processes and our onboarding and our contractual structure and, um, everything that comes along with that. Uh, so it will be a much smoother transition for bringing new team members onto the team and going through our onboarding process as well as getting integrated into our, into our comms, as well as setting your goals and measureables. So you can gain that experience and hopefully have something very powerful to put on your resume, um, for inside of soccer and outside of soccer. So let's, uh, let's see. Uh, yeah, I just had my soccer season. Okay. Joe said, yeah, I just had my soccer season canceled until at least January 4th in Pennsylvania due to, COVID sorry to hear that. Um, what are your, what is your focus in plan to, to work on, um, to keep yourself mentally sharpen occupied between now and then? Uh, the real Elden asked why is America's Academy system? So money base. Okay. There's a whole lot layers to that, but I think like a simplistic way of looking at it is soccer in America. You know, like 20, 30 years ago was not seen as America sport. It wasn't very popular there weren't, there wasn't a lot of people in it, right? Uh, a lot of people immigrate to America and those who immigrate to America tend to bring soccer culture with them, right? Because everywhere else in the world is called football.

Quincy Amarikwa (00:36:04):

Um, those ones,

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Individuals started building soccer academies and camps and programs. And, uh, I, I can even remember when I'm growing up, right? If someone had an accent, you assume that they understood soccer, right. Or at least better than an American Mer merkins don't know soccer, right? Uh, because we call it soccer, not, not food ball. And those individuals saw massive opportunity to, to be able to create a pay to play system, which makes sense, because nobody was paying money to watch soccer on TV. No one was paying, um, a lot of money for soccer equipment. No one was buying stuff. So those individuals created the pay to play system. And, uh, I think of it just like golf and tennis, where these are kind of like country clubs, sports, where you tend to have to have a lot of money in order to participate in play. And then soccer started to gain traction over time and more and more people saw the opportunity in it and in doing so, people were paying for access. But I think what the soccer community has been waiting on is for massive corporations and organizations to see the value in investing in soccer. And now that that's starting to come, that's what I'm seeing happening. Um, you know, the rumblings of that, where that money, where that money is coming from and where that money will go is, is what is being discussed.

Quincy Amarikwa (00:37:38):

I think in

Quincy Amarikwa (00:37:39):

Much more detail now and, and more and more people are coming. So I think, like I said, we've been on a mission to disrupt the pay to play system for a long time. We've been preaching and talking about the MSL for a very long time. We've been doing this well before it was ever popular or anyone was focused on or thinking about it or understanding it. And it takes, you know, it takes 10 years to become an overnight success. And this is the path and journey we've been on. And I've been super juiced to have the perfect soccer MSL community along,

Quincy Amarikwa (00:38:12):

Uh, along for the ride. Um, yeah, yeah, yeah. That would be like a very condensed, you know, uh, what do you, would you call it like masterclass, you know, surface level way to kind of think about the

Quincy Amarikwa (00:38:33):

[inaudible] of soccer here in America, at least during my lifetime.

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Quincy Amarikwa (00:38:43):

Okay. Kofi said episode 67 episode, uh, the real Elden said episode 70, 74. How do we know for sure? Yeah. No. Okay. That's what I'm saying. Nah, that's a little bit too late in the game. Ben Jammin said linear versus exponential was episode 10. There you go. That was early on those early on because we wanted to break down what was coming before it happened. Cause we speak it into existence. We didn't know what was going to come in the future. Other than uncertainty, uncertainty is what's guaranteed in the future. So how do we prepare for uncertainty? How do we make sure that no matter what the future is, we are prepared and we are here and we're able to provide value and to learn and to grow and to maximize the value we put into the system, because like I said, we're here to over-deliver value, leaving every exchange, having given more than we received. And what are we selling? Remember we're selling the idea that you and the team you build because your network is your net worth is all you need to get to wherever you want to be in life and soccer. And we're happy to have you.

Quincy Amarikwa (00:39:54):

We're happy to have you

Quincy Amarikwa (00:40:02):

Actually, I, I, uh, I think, uh, John, uh, John last week, uh, wrote the, the caption for T for last week's episode, which I appreciated, uh, greatly. And I'm loving the fact that, uh, team members are taking notes now and sending that in that is helpful. I think we just got to start. If you guys know how to like, make clips of your favorite, uh, parts of the show, uh, favorite moments, funny moments, stupid moments, you know, uh, insightful ones. You guys make clips of that and post them, I'll be happy to reshare, um, on my account of the perfect soccer account, we would just need to this, this needs to be more community-based. We need to all be like, like I, uh, I don't know what resonates best with you as an individual. So if you see something that you feel is very impactful, meaningful, insightful, funny, humorous to you, clip that, post it and share it, tag someone that you feel will get value out of it as well, too.

Quincy Amarikwa (00:41:02):

Um, yeah,

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I guess I've been using this time to rethink our approach and what works about it and how it works, but how it doesn't work for everybody. So to make it work for everybody, we put in the work, we do the work to get it done. So if the, if the value's there and the values in like a ten second clip or a minute clip or a five minute clip, or the whole episode, let's start breaking down those clips and sharing them and tagging people who we feel would, uh, would appreciate the perfect soccer in the MSL community. Cause you guys let me know. Do you feel the message is valuable? Do you think it's worth sharing? Do you think it would be great to continue to push this message and to see if other people, if it resonates with other people and it taps into their frequency, because that's what we're trying to do. Tap into that mental frequency, right? Everyone's at a different level in their understanding. And we talked about level one to level 10, where you at and what frequency do we need to tap into?

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Quincy Amarikwa (00:42:22):

We're breaking it down and we're making progress everybody.

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Quincy Amarikwa (00:42:29):

Ah, okay. And this said, I said, can you repeat? When is the best time to do less? And why?

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Quincy Amarikwa (00:42:37):

This is, this is one that is, I think most difficult for me personally, when to do less. And I'm learning better how to do that right now. Right? So the show, the Assa soccer bro show, I'm speaking to everyone all at once. And I'm answering questions from kids who are in Nigeria, who are 12 years old and they want to, you know, make their local team to, uh, parents who are coaching their kids in the States to parent, uh, to adults who want to be referees to adults who don't know anything about the game. But they just like the mentality to, uh, people, my age who know nothing about soccer, but are wanting to get involved. Right? So we're speaking to everyone. It's a mass, we're talking about a global market in this one show, we're talking to literally everybody, which then means we only have so much time for each person.

Quincy Amarikwa (00:43:40):

So if we break down the 60 minute episode into 60, uh, 61 minute segments of time talking to each person, right, where we're developing our mental strength and patience. If we only get our answer in minute, let's say, let's say you start the show and you don't get your answer or something. Doesn't resonate with you until minute 45. Well, that means you have to, you have to invest your time and patience to get to minute 45, to get what you need from the show in episode. Right? But if you're getting what you need from the show in episode and applying it for yourself and your life, that's great. That's one level of value and you're getting value out of the show and hopefully you'll invest more time in the future and stick along the ride. Which many of you have? I'm very appreciative of that.

Quincy Amarikwa (00:44:32):

So thank you in doing so. It's also allowed me time to realize and understand a better, know what I'm doing and how I'm doing it effectively because you don't always know what you're doing. You're trying stuff. So if you're trying something new and you don't have the experience yet, the only thing you can do is try and make mistakes. And that's what I let you guys know, making mistakes as part of the process. Um, but if you self-reflect, and you're honest with yourself about what you're doing and you're taking initiative, holding yourself accountable, and you, you have, um, the right intention in what you're doing, you will figure it out given enough time, right? So that doesn't just apply to you. It applies to me as well, too. So from that context, if I'm talking to everybody all at one time at 0.0, like at day one, I'm doing too much.

Quincy Amarikwa (00:45:26):

Right. But I don't know of doing too much. That means I'm on level one, understanding I'm novice say ignorance is bliss. That's my advantage. But as time goes on, I get up to level 10 and I realize all the things like I told you early in this you'll get blindsided by stuff. And I haven't yet found a way to avoid getting blindsided, but talking myself through this, I believe I just recently have, and now can close the loop on where I started and where I'm at now and how I've grown as an individual, as I've grown in my experience, in my understanding, in my skillsets, in my patients, in my mental strength, right? In my understanding of me, in my understanding of my audience and who I'm speaking to and how to speak to people more clearly and concisely without doing too much to maybe push people away and to better, uh, to better extend the invitation to other people, to join the party because I want them to join the party.

Quincy Amarikwa (00:46:29):

If you guys are having a good time and you're enjoying it and you're getting value. And, uh, even me speaking to the point of where we can now, self-reflect the seat. Oh, wait, am I taking from the show? And only I'm only investing in myself or can I, can I find a way to, to take from the show, invest in myself and invest in others, right? Because teamwork makes the dream work and your network is your net worth. So are you increasing the value of your network? Are you sharing accurate information with people in your network? Are you making the investment in them over time? So they can see for themselves how to empower themselves, how to, uh, become self-aware, how to accomplish their goals? Well, why not? If you, aren't, why not be honest with yourself? Are you going with a fear mindset that like, well, if I don't have, you know, uh, I can't win. If they're winning, are you comparing yourself to others or are you focused on yourself? Are you trying to challenge yourself and grow and be the best version of yourself as possible? Or you just saying it because it looks good on social media?

Quincy Amarikwa (00:47:45):

I don't know. That's the question you gotta ask yourself, but who, yeah, no, that's a great question. And it's thank you. And you learn, you learn when to do less over time, the more experience that you gain. But that's why I said that, that one's the, in my mind, that's one of the most difficult things to learn to do, because to do that, you gotta do too much for too long. And then basically learn from all the mistakes that you made from doing too much for too long. Because like I told you guys, you got to find the balance, true balance. You got to find the extremes. And most people aren't willing to do the work to go to the extremes for whatever reason. So that ties back to the other question earlier. Um, um, a man who was it? I think Joe, I'm not sure Joe, if were talking about, you know, you, you you're getting FID straighted for him. Um, it's not working. It's not for, for no reason. And you don't know why I said there is a reason you just got to find the reason or decide what the reason is and work with that until you get enough experience to know if that was right or wrong. Let's see. Let's see what we got here, man. I fell behind on the, on the,

Quincy Amarikwa (00:49:09):

Let's see what we got here. Uh, I'm going down to the bottom to see,

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Quincy Amarikwa (00:49:25):

All right. So I feel behind the conversation here sometime. Okay. You guys were talking about flags and stuff. Um,

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Let's see.

Quincy Amarikwa (00:50:04):

Um, okay.

Quincy Amarikwa (00:50:21):

Let's see. Sorry. Okay. Oh, well, we're, uh, we are dialing in on, uh, the hour. So I've got a couple more minutes here before we wrap up today's episode and I'm just, I'm going through the comments and seeing what's coming. Okay. Uh, Joe, Joe Jackson said, when's your Christmas track coming, Quincy? Uh, I should make one. That'd be great. Uh, man.

Quincy Amarikwa (00:50:57):

Yeah, I should do that. Need to need to bring back a Q and a productions. So shout out Aaron Flowers. Uh, we used to produce music back in college. We never made a Christmas track, but maybe we, we we'd get the band back together and make one, a K 23 said with you, just men mentioning networking. That reminds me that I made my LinkedIn profile both for academic and professional, uh, professional and soccer. Nice. I've just recently updated my LinkedIn portfolio as well. So our profile. So if you guys, um, want to connect, uh, I don't even know how, like what or how LinkedIn connect connecting on LinkedIn where I don't know, like, if that means anything, but I've got my profile, so

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Quincy Amarikwa (00:51:56):

Well, let's see. Let's see. Let's see. I'm trying to see who you guys are saying. You're watching. Oh, okay. What do you think about the most recent MSCI versus Rinaldo? Did they play up? I have not been tuned in on, on that side of stuff. So, uh, I see what you guys are talking about now. So I'm assuming these guys played each other in a game. I don't know what game it was or when, who won.

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Quincy Amarikwa (00:52:45):

Let's see. Let's see. Let's see. Okay. Yeah. I think it just felt too far behind the conversation. What is Okay. Yeah.

Quincy Amarikwa (00:53:09):

Okay. So Daniel said, when is the absolute too late? When is it absolutely too late to chase this dream of playing professional. I'm almost 21 and dream of playing in the MLS. I'll never say that it's too late. I'll just say that people who will decide, uh, the older you get, the more difficult it becomes for people to be willing, to take a chance on you. So it doesn't even fully mean that you couldn't do it or you're not skillful enough, or you wouldn't have the ability to, it's just like I said, your network is your net worth and your network only grows stronger if you always deliver on what you say you'll deliver on. And that means as time goes on, people are less likely to recommend someone unless they know for sure it's going to work out and by know for sure it's going to work out.

Quincy Amarikwa (00:54:01):

It means they might know you personally, they've seen you play for a long time. They know who you are. They could speak to your character and they they'll they'll back you. Right? Because that's what the game is at the professional level to a large degree, right? Like you, you aren't afforded the ability to make too many mistakes for too long at the professional level because capitalizing on mistakes is the name of the game. And if you make too many mistakes, then you're not at the professional level and you eventually get removed. So that could be mistakes on the field. It can be mistakes off the field. So we talk about a lot here, the political game and navigating the locker room. And, and that side is just as important, if not more important or valuable than navigating on the field, right? Because when you get the ball where you get the ball, if you get the ball is also determined by not only your skill set and your ability when you have it, but also by your teammate's willingness to give you the ball or get you the ball, or put you in good positions or set you up for success.

Quincy Amarikwa (00:55:14):

Right. As well as what happens on the field is also determined based on what happens in the locker room off the field, what the coach thinks of you, what you think of the coach, how other people perceive you relative to the coach, how the technical staff perceives you, the training staff, the medical staff, the, um, Kitman and kit women. And, you know, like all of that plays a part and it's an ecosystem. It's an organization, it's an organism. And, um, it requires a lot of experience to understand every perspective and angle of that organ of that organism of that organization, as well as what you need to do as an individual piece within that organization to maximize your potential, maximize your output, maximize your influence, um, as well as maximize the potential and value of all the individuals around you, if you so choose. So,

Quincy Amarikwa (00:56:13):

Yeah. Uh,

Quincy Amarikwa (00:56:18):

Did you buy next gen console? No, I haven't, but I ha I did go into, what was it? Game stop to get an update on like, I used to be, uh, used to be a gamer. I used to really enjoy gaming, but that does require a lot of time. And, um, I reassessed where I was investing my time, but I did go look at GameStop to see where what's been. Um, what's been, uh, coming around the, the way, like the advancements in technology and gaming and stuff. It looks dope.

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Quincy Amarikwa (00:57:00):

Let's see what we got here. All right. Um, uh, Ben Jammin said Naveen, the locker room was something I have totally overlooked up to this past season. Okay. That's a part of self-awareness I have made greater this year. Okay. Like I liked that, right. It's something you get. So laser focused in, on what you're doing on the field and how to do that, that you, that you now become, um, tunnel vision and unable to realize and see the world and network of conversations and how the locker room affects your ability to be successful on the field like that. All right. All right, everybody. That is the hour Mark.

Quincy Amarikwa (00:58:07):

Yeah, that is the hour Mark. And I want to thank everybody for joining in on episode 99 of the hashtag ask soccer per show. I would like to encourage and remind everybody to head over to perfect soccer skills.com/store. Grab yourself some perfect soccer, merge, some perfect soccer mini balls there in stock match balls, the two, one portable goal, and just some dope gear. I'm also going to immediately, uh, get back to Serena to make sure we're getting more of the perfect soccer mom merge back up in the store so you can buy something nice for your perfect soccer, mommy. Um, and yeah, if, uh, if you, if you're needing something to go super deep on here during the holiday season, before getting ready to prepare for the new year, make sure you had the perfect soccer skills.com/p S T M create your free account and read our books, uh, training materials, resources, be pro at home training program or time management sheet, um, all of the webinar trainings and additional stuff that I'll be adding here over these next couple of weeks, because we'll be taking a break from the show, uh, to prepare for episode 100, as well as get everything in alignment.

Quincy Amarikwa (00:59:25):

So if you want to join the team as an intern, uh, you want to join, uh, you want to gain some experience. You've got something that you want to work on, or some, an idea or whatever, make sure you send us an email to contact@perfectsoccerskills.com. We will, um, take those requests as soon as we're able and get back to you. And yeah, I think that about covers everything. Um, I'm seeing Joe, Joe Jackson, uh, spamming the heart button and this spam, the heart button, K 23, uh, spam. And I finally made my PSTM account loved that, uh, live or pooled. Now make sure you go in there and, uh, doing the work Ben jamming dropped them in your head. Emoji, uh, Liverpool said episode 100 soon. I'm in your head. Love that soccer dad dropped them in your head. Uh, Ben Jammin USM, uh, U S M N T memes with the I'm in your head emoji, uh, K 23.

Quincy Amarikwa (01:00:22):

Thank you for your time. Quincy looking forward to episode 100. Thank you guys. I appreciate everybody tuning in dropping the questions I've been loving. Seeing everybody, uh, invest in their time in 2020 and, um, doing their best to invest in themselves in and set themselves up for 20, 21 and beyond. So thank you. Love seeing everyone tapped into the frequency and, uh, yeah, you got your notes from today's episode. Please send them to, uh, to the account. So we've got them and I will see everybody here soon for episode 100. Uh, thanks again. And as always, I mean, you had later everybody.