Lessons Learned and Re-Learned in 2019

Recently, I took some time to reflect on the lessons I learned and re-learned in 2019.  I hope you find these lessons helpful and are able to learn from my experiences and mistakes, so you don't have to repeat them!
Someone must first be open to learning for you to teach them. 
If someone is not open to learning something new, or capable of admitting they may have been wrong in the past, you are wasting your time to try and engage them further.
Always take credit for work you have done.
Taking credit for work you have done may not always seem ‘humble,’ however, it will benefit you in the long term. Remember, those who don’t do the work are usually happy to take credit and be rewarded for it; they spend their time talking while you are spending your time giving. If you are not getting your ‘share’ of credit, and you didn’t demand it, although unfair, this is your fault. Make sure when you do take credit, it’s for work you have done!

Value is shown through the willingness to do work and/or provide monetary compensation.

Someone expresses their view of your work’s value through their willingness to pay for it. When someone is willing to pay you in exchange for your experience, perspective, services, or skills, then they value your work and you. If someone is willing to work for you, they see value in what you are doing; the more work they are willing to do, the more value they see.

Do not be ashamed of asking for compensation for your work, but also be ready to show your value. Being able to explain what you do in simple terms is critical, because chances are you will need to explain and demonstrate your value to someone without your skillset.

Some good questions to ask ourselves: 

  • When is a time you worked for or paid somebody for something you couldn’t see or understand?
  • Were you happy with this arrangement? Did you feel safe in?
  • How often do you work for or pay someone for something you can't see or understand? 
  • If you are unwilling to do work for someone or pay them for something you can't see or understand, how can you expect others to do the same for you?
  • If you are willing to work for someone or pay them for something you can't see or understand, what is/has your expectation been?
  • How did you determine what’s reasonable?
  • Is a reasonable arrangement easily understood and agreed upon by others? Why or why not?

Understand the implications of working with those with ‘Individual Survival Mindset.’

Working with those who act in their own self-interest is only negative for you and the group in the short-term. In the long term, this type of self-interest behavior is only negative for the individual exhibiting it as others begin to understand their true nature. This lesson will help you avoid long term suffering as you realize the value in choosing short term pain and sacrifice over overindulgence in instant gratification... So, thank these short-term thinking individuals for their greed, your future self will reap the profits of this valuable lesson.

What lessons have you learned or re-learned this year?