The #AskASocerPro show is a Live video podcast where 11 year MLS vet and Mental Strength Coach Quincy Amarikwa dives into the mentalities of highly successful individuals both on and off the pitch. In this weeks episode Quincy Amarikwa discussed about how to create long term success, 2021 Quincy Life Update, How to overcome roadblocks and more.
1:36-4:39 Welcome to the 101st episode of the #AskASoccerPro Show where we explore how to create long term success
4:40-7:19 Purchase Your Perfect Soccer Subscription, get first access to the upcoming MSL app!
7:27-9:48 2021 Quincy Life Update!
12:24-17:03 How do you get in touch with agents and clubs? @san_jose_earthquakes_memes
20:57-22:07 Learn the best way to utilize your time! @joe.jackson11
23:34-31:00 What to look for when looking for a new club? @juliankoulish_24
32:26-33:50 @been._.jammin is the first winner of the 10 push up challenge!
33:51-36:30 How to overcome roadblocks for long term goals.
36:31-37:51 What benefits did @been._.jammin discover in other parts of his life after doing the 10 push-up challenge?
37:52-40:12 What’s the best thing to do when you reach your goal?
40:13-41:24 Will you be the next Perfect Soccer Push-up Champion?
44:35-51:08 How to set yourself up for long term success.
51:09-54:58 Thank you for stopping by for the #AskASoccerPro show, episode 101!
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Quincy Amarikwa (00:00):
We're all here to ride the MSL waves. You mentioned the strength lead. I'd like to welcome you to another episode of the hashtag ask eight soccer approach. [inaudible]
Quincy Amarikwa (00:11):
San Jose earthquakes means with the first Danny who's in what's up brother, bro. Uh, Colin joined the show. Uh, I know everyone would love to hear how you're doing, man. And what's going on in Austin. Uh, Shannon what's happening, the real Elden. What's going on. JC from our VA. Welcome, uh, to the live. Happy to see everybody trickling in here. What's going on in this, uh, calm SLAs. How you doing brother? Let me pin that comment. Cause you guys know the perfect soccer subscription is now live. Um, let's see the thing with the image now. It doesn't let me inverted anymore, unfortunately. And then let's see what we got here. Okay.
Quincy Amarikwa (01:34):
Yo Meg, what's happening? Joe Jackson with the I'm in your head. Emojis. What's going on, everybody. Sorry. I was just getting everything situated sorted out and set up for today's episode, episode one Oh one to be hashtag ask a soccer pro show. I'm your host? 12 year professional soccer player. Quincy Marquardt currently in my free agency year is the year frequency tap in right. 2020 is about the vision 2021 is about the frequency, the frequency you guys going to come ride the frequency wave. What Quincy's in that free agency year. We're going to make it year 13. Um, where you guys think, I know there's a lot of stuff going on in the world of soccer. MLS PA just dropped where they stand in the CBA negotiations. Um, what else is going on? Uh, what else was going free? The Q JC, um, lots of stuff.
Quincy Amarikwa (02:40):
Just lots of things happening. Lots of movement. Um, I believe lots of progress. Um, and today today's episode is going to be, I think, a good one, a classic MSL wave episode. Uh, for those of you who might be joining for the first time, uh, for episode one Oh one of the hashtag ask a soccer per show. I'm your host, 12 year professional soccer player, Quincy America. And uh, we talk about the MSL or the mental strength li see a little bit, my farm work dirt from a hat there, um, which is a four D game of chess, right? It's like men were thinking and playing a game of 40 chess where you're a pawn in the game, right? Either you're playing the game or you're upon getting played in the game. And we joined here every Thursday, 6:00 PM, PST 9:00 PM EST to break down the AmeriCorps process.
Quincy Amarikwa (03:45):
Our seven step process that starts with the first three steps, which is the three S's of self-awareness. And if you want to develop a mentality to help you accomplish your goals, then you need to download that MSL mentality, tap into the frequency cause this MSL, uh, this MSO wave is, uh, is free, free to ride. You just got to tune in to the frequency. And like I said, I'm going to keep repeating frequency this year because that's what we're doing. That's what we're tapping into. And that is how we're going to continue to push out this message and, uh, continue to share the experiences and the knowledge that we are all gaining over the course of time so that we can all collectively boom, teamwork equals dreamwork and help each other accomplish those goals. Um, Jordan acid, they're an MSL app on deck there isn't MSL app in development, right? So I think the first step that's a good first question. The first step is, um, the first step was
Quincy Amarikwa (04:51):
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Tightened up and in one place reorganized more easily, um, able to navigate. And that is the perfect soccer subscription. So if you guys have not, I know a lot of people have been a member of their free perfect soccer team membership, which is packed full of amazing info knowledge to help you on your soccer journey. We have completed the perfect soccer subscription, which is our paid subscription service, which has a bunch of additional, um, a bunch of additional amazing, like amazing stuff. Uh, we, we just, um, included in unlocked our B pro weekly. So you get a, uh, custom weekly soccer training program. So for beginners, intermediate and advanced and that's, uh, unlocked and available to you every week, Ryan, uh, mash or B pro general manager develops those programs for, for our community on a weekly basis, that's unlocked with your perfect Cypress subscription.
Quincy Amarikwa (05:50):
You've got access to all of our books, all of our tools, all of our resources, all of our training. I'm also going to be doing private zoom calls. I'm thinking a biweekly basis to answer specific questions, kind of like a, a really deep dive into the MSL mentality and, um, specific questions for how to plan, uh, both on and off the field. That'll be in there. We've got a private zoom trainings for doing sessions. So they'll be setting up with a specific pro um, a lot of bonus stuff that I've been steady working on in the background here that will be, um, exclusive to perfect soccer, um, subscription members, the baller thing of it as well too, is signing up, gets you a free either perfect soccer mini ball or perfect soccer match ball. Um, if you do monthly, get a perfect meet, perfect soccer volleyball for free with your subscription.
Quincy Amarikwa (06:38):
If you get go, uh, and pay for full year's subscription upfront, you get a perfect soccer match ball, as well as a bunch of other amazing bonuses and dope stuff that you guys can go and check out perfect soccer skills.com/subscription. So, um, I bring that up because the evolution of that will be the app, um, that we are in development on. And, um, if you want to be tuned in to the frequency and get that information, as it comes out, the purpose opera subscription is the way to ride the wave. Um, but how's everybody doing? Are you guys doing, um, San Jose earthquakes means asks, how have you been Quincy? I've been, um, I've been good, I've been bad. I've been mad. Um, it has been a, it has been a taxing and emotional, um, process this last year. I'm sure as for everybody going through the pandemic in 2020, um, as well as this off season and restructuring of, of our organization, uh, personal self realizations, um, get an older, um, learning more, uh, learning more and understanding, you know, less known more from different positions and seeing the decisions that groups and organizations are choosing to make during these times, uh, some have been very inspiring and I'm hopeful.
Quincy Amarikwa (08:12):
Others have been very disappointing and draining, and I think it's just been an emotional roller coaster to be honest. And that is, that is part of the process, you know, there's ups and downs and everything's not going to be easy. Um, and it's not going to be fun. Um, but hopefully, you know, those, those difficult moments allow you time to self reflect and be appreciative of the good times and, uh, be grateful for what you have and, um, and understanding that it's okay to aspire for more and to have ambition, but it's also very important to be grateful for what, what you have, what you have access to. And, um, and just, just the experience, you know, the human experience Of time, having time as you guys know, we talk about it here, all the, all the time, time is your most valuable asset. You don't know how much of it you have or how much you're going to have, or, um, so, so value it's precious. And, um,
Quincy Amarikwa (09:14):
Times change, uh,
Quincy Amarikwa (09:18):
People grow, people stay the same, uh, people regress, um, that is life and
Quincy Amarikwa (09:28):
Quincy Amarikwa (09:29):
Is what we're here to build and to maintain. And I'm, I'm, I'm grateful to have you guys as a part of the MSL community. So, um, I hope everyone is doing well or finding their way, uh, towards being well and staying safe. Um,
Quincy Amarikwa (09:47):
Yeah, today's episode, like I said, uh, is, uh, more of a, a classic MSL one. I'm just asking you guys how you're doing, what's going on. Um, how have you been as well as, what are your thoughts of episode 100? So if, uh, if you, if you missed episode 100 or didn't attend last week's live, we had a special guests, Ben Olson, my former D the former DC United coach, and my former coach while I was at DC United, um, to kind of share with us his perspective on his past 10 years, Cushing's experience in DC, as well as his, as his 10 plus years as being a player. What was he playing for 10 years
Quincy Amarikwa (10:32):
Or, yeah, he's played for 10 years
Quincy Amarikwa (10:35):
For one club, which was DC United then became the head coach of that club. And, um, Yeah, his last year coaching or no, his last year was last year. Yeah. So 2020 was his last year, um, before they eventually decided to move on. I forget the name of the new coach, who they just hired, but you know, any DC United fans on it, George, your, uh, you're in the live. Um, what are your thoughts on the new head coach, the new hire, um,
Quincy Amarikwa (11:09):
And any other DC United fans
Quincy Amarikwa (11:12):
Or, and, and what did you, what were you guys, uh, takeaways from the episode? I know I'm asking a lot of questions and drop a Plata information, but,
Quincy Amarikwa (11:23):
Um, what were your takeaways,
Quincy Amarikwa (11:33):
Um, 4k 4k T while you guys spend, think about that and drop some of your thoughts and responses start scrolling through here. Some of the questions that come in, um, K one UK, you said, I didn't play football since two years. I accomplished too many, too much stuff I've already wanted to, but Corona made me give up well, I'm, I'm sorry to hear that. I hope I hope, uh, Corona passes and you're able to get back into the game, um, if, if, uh, if you still have a passion for it.
Quincy Amarikwa (12:10):
Quincy Amarikwa (12:15):
And the McNasty 2002 said one-on-one work works on work. That's right. We are here working.
Quincy Amarikwa (12:22):
Quincy Amarikwa (12:24):
Okay. San Jose earthquakes means had asked how does one get in touch with agents and clubs? That's uh, that's uh, Ooh. Okay. So let me break this down, cause I can tie everything back to the perfect soccer subscription. Another thing that you get access to with the perfect soccer subscription, which I, I, uh, I forgot was, uh, you get a custom perfect soccer, um, resume website. So we will, we'll help you build, we will build your custom, uh, website and you'll get your own perfect soccer skills.com um, URL, uh, with your name, that'll go to your site to help you reach out to agents and reach out to clubs and promote yourself. You've got to have a highlight tape. You've got to have a breakdown of your CV, your stats, your awards, your accolades, all in one place. That's easy, easily accessible. So coaches and agents can, can assess you as a player very quickly.
Quincy Amarikwa (13:18):
Like, like I mentioned earlier, time is a very valuable asset. A lot of these clubs, agents, coaches, and stuff don't have much of it. So if you do have an opportunity to catch their attention and or willingness for them to pay attention to you, you want to make it as easy as possible and look as professional as possible in presenting yourself. And, um, for those who haven't, um, don't know what, uh, uh, soccer, CV or soccer resume looks like. Um, you should definitely check mine out. Uh, perfect soccer skills.com/quincy CV. You can see what my, what my soccer resume looks like. Um, and we'll create you one just like that. You'll just need to send us over the content and the information that you have so we can build out that page for you that comes with your perfect soccer subscription plus hosting. Okay.
Quincy Amarikwa (14:04):
Quincy Amarikwa (14:06):
And okay. And then I'm also thinking as well, too. And when you sign up, I'm also going to work to add a breakdown of how to specifically get in touch with agents in clubs. I've, I've talked with someone in the past who, who had developed a course on that. Um, and if that's something you guys would be interested in me adding to the training center, I will. So those of you who have a perfect soccer subscription, if there's something that you're wanting training, uh, a panel, a discussion, um, uh, a anything really, you submit your request, and if you have a subscription, I will, I will break down that train. I'll do the training, I'll hold the webinar or panel, um, or do video or, or, or write down how to go about doing stuff. There we go. I'm getting dialed in. Cause that's what I said this year is about the frequency down in the frequency, tightened in everything up and, and, and bring it, bringing it all into one simple thing where
Quincy Amarikwa (15:06):
You get any
Quincy Amarikwa (15:08):
And all of your needs in the soccer space met by having your perfect soccer subscription. Think of it like having the ultimate Costco card for soccer and the digital space. You got your perfect soccer subscription. You're getting massive discounts to the merchant on the store, 30% discount on anything you're getting on the store. That's merged ball schools. Um, if there's a specific training or a question or something that you're wanting, that isn't in the training center already, you submit that I will make sure that I go in there and I can meet that training. Um,
Quincy Amarikwa (15:42):
Quincy Amarikwa (15:43):
Yeah. That's, that's, that's what I'm getting dialed in on. Cause we've been, we've been doing this for over two years now. We're on episode one Oh one. Um, we have some amazing training. We've got, uh, some amazing books, tools and resources already in the free, um,
Quincy Amarikwa (15:58):
Uh, the free part
Quincy Amarikwa (16:01):
Of our training center. I was trying to figure out a way in which I could provide more value to, to the community, but also make sure I'm not wasting my time developing out programs or tools or resources that people aren't really going to utilize or value. Uh, one thing that I've definitely learned is, uh, you value something much more if you pay for it. So there needs to be some type of financial tie to, uh,
Quincy Amarikwa (16:24):
To the, to the
Quincy Amarikwa (16:27):
Tools, books, and re like the stuff that I'm, I'm developing that I'm spending my time to work with other players to develop and to put into place. So, um, that's my promise. There we go. I can add that. That's my promise with your perfect soccer subscription, if there's a specific, um, you know, training that needs to be developed or something that you're, you're, you're needing help with, that isn't already available in terms of like, how to go about doing something for yourself, I will make sure that it gets added. Um, that would be a challenge for you guys cause there's a lot of stuff. Um, there, um, let's see
Quincy Amarikwa (17:04):
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4k 4k T dot L U I S nine had asked, is Akron a good school to play soccer? I, I don't know, like from personal experience, but I, I, I am aware that a lot of players who play pro in MLS, uh, played at Akron. I don't know how they're doing. Uh, I haven't really been following, following college soccer. So, uh, I'm, I'm not sure, uh, I mean, nasty to a T 2002 said need to do a show only on info for all this perfect soccer alum and you're busy, bro. Good job. Thank you very much. Yeah. It's, I'm trying to find the balance of updating you guys on all the parts. There's a lot of stuff that's going on. Uh, both imperfect soccer, um, in, in, um, in the BPC organization with the MLS. Um, um, can you make me think of all the stuff that we've we've we accomplished a whole lot in 2020, and I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm proud of the work that we've done.
Quincy Amarikwa (18:10):
Uh, but I'm also trying to make sure that I am dedicating my time and focus where it's valued most. Um, and, um, I think that's, that's my priority here. Um, you know, uh, finding harmony harmony in the frequency and having more fun and just enjoying myself more like, uh, you know, you do the work, but also enjoy yourself and have a good time. And I think at times I can get too focused on, um, the work, um, that you can forget to enjoy the work you're doing. And if you don't enjoy the work you're doing anymore, change the work that you do, change the work that you do. Um, and it's a matter of like, uh, reminding yourself of that. And you guys, I think with, uh, with the show, you guys are hopefully able to see a little bit of my process, how I think about stuff, how I process my own emotions, my own thoughts, my, my, um, my anger, my frustration, my disappointment, my sadness, my happiness, my excitement, um, my jealousy, you know, my insecurities, my fears, um, cause I think articulating them and defining them allows you to better understand them and then overcome them if that's what you choose to do or, or accept them because that's also important.
Quincy Amarikwa (19:49):
Like, um, you don't have to do everything always and you don't have to be perfect. Um, even though the world may make you feel as though that's the case. Um, and it can be hard to remember that when you're just inundated with just messages and notifications and negativity and difficult news and monumental tasks and stuff, um, it can be and feel very overwhelming. No, that that's normal. Um, that's part of the process. Um, but those times will help you better appreciate, um, the good times or the moments in time that are good and you can appreciate things more.
Quincy Amarikwa (20:48):
So, um, let's see what we got here.
Quincy Amarikwa (20:56):
Oh, Joe, Joe Jackson say said, which goes right into the perfect soccer time management tools. That is correct. So also in your purse, perfect soccer subscription. You've got access to our, our, our time management worksheet and training, um, training video that goes along with it. It breaks down how, how to utilize it and how to use it and how a lot of pros that I've personally mentored over time. Who've been kind of going through the MSL training program at their own pace and at different stages of their career, um, have utilized that to become much more productive with their time and maybe spend less time working because the time that they are working, they're being more efficient. So you don't have to just because you're doing more work doesn't mean you're doing smart work and that time management, uh, tool, which can be difficult to learn, right? Take you some time. You'll have to dedicate some time, focus and energy to it. But if you do, it'll be a very, uh, valuable, um, asset for you and, um, will allow you to better learn how to make good decisions both on and off the field or better decisions.
Quincy Amarikwa (22:09):
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George said, we all getting older brother with age comes wisdom. That is always the hope, hope for more wisdom with age Popa Jr said frequency that's right live in that soccer life.
Quincy Amarikwa (22:22):
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Uh, George had said Ben Olson was super relatable and open, uh, came across as a great guy.
Quincy Amarikwa (22:31):
Um, uh, Julian
Quincy Amarikwa (22:35):
Said when looking for a new club, what are the main things to factor who
Quincy Amarikwa (22:40):
Quincy Amarikwa (22:42):
Oh, so love him his full name. Cause I know, uh, Connor, we'll break this one down. Uh, J U L I a M K O U L I S H underscore 24. When looking for a new club, what are the main things to factor? Okay. If I'm assuming, you're saying we're looking for a new club for you to play for or with, I'd say the main things to factor is style of play and what the coach values, um, and their co in the coaching style.
Quincy Amarikwa (23:11):
Quincy Amarikwa (23:13):
At all possible do your best to find a coach who naturally likes your style and likes how you play. I think I've, I've shared this till I'm blue in the face with many a players, because I played for many teams that have many teammates and mentored many players and talk to them. And I remember I was a [inaudible] at the time I lost a lot. I say, listen, the Mo the moment you find a coach who likes you, who loves you, um, follow that coach till the end of time, if there's any, like, if there's any like real definitive follow that coach, as long as you can. And the reason for that is when a coach has made the decision that they like you and you're their guy or you're their girl, um, and your style fits their system.
Quincy Amarikwa (24:08):
They're inclined to, as time goes on, the time that they've invested in, you will give you an advantage over any other player or most other players. It'll be, it becomes that much harder for a coach to choose another player over you, because they can always refer back to the time they've already invested in you. And when they think about that, they think about the fact that in order to get in order to get to that level of relationship and understanding with this new player in their mind, even subconsciously, it might not even be true or rational in their mind. The thought is I'll have to invest just as much time in this new person just to get, to get to where I'm at with this player. So, you know what, it's not worth it. It's better than I just doubled down my time and in the player I'm with and hope that they progress to where I need them to be along with me.
Quincy Amarikwa (25:05):
That's what I see most coaches choose to do. So, so the earlier you can get in good, the better off you are and the, the longer it takes you to get in good, the more work you have to do to accomplish, you know, the same amount of work as, as your peer, your competition, that's just the, that's the nature of competitive sports. That's definitely the nature of competitive of competitive soccer, um, at the professional level, when I think it kinda makes me think back to just the conversation I had with Ben and episode 100, you know, um, TA uh, when you, when you show up like, uh, uh, when I'm showing up at DC originally, I'm not, you know, I'm not looked at as the guy, you know, Wayne is the number one lane is the starting striker. And when you're coming into a team like that, you understand that and you know that, and, um, or you should understand and know that, but that doesn't change the amount of work that you'll have to do to, to survive, to remain, um, valuable and a productive member of the team, you know, and, and the amount of stuff you have to do to be able to make up for maybe your lack of starting position might be a lot.
Quincy Amarikwa (26:32):
And that's why you probably, you guys probably see, I put so much time, effort and energy into the perfect soccer subscription and just the perfect soccer platform, uh, because over the course of my career, you know, I tend to be brought in, in not the greatest of starting positions. I'm not brought in as the man or the number one or the starter or the, even the focal point of the team. Typically I'm brought in as, um, you know, the team is not doing well. And it's kinda like, Oh, well, all right, we need someone who can fight and work hard. So go ahead and bring them in. And then I'm usually impressing coaches and organizations, cause they weren't expecting me to be as good of a player as I am or smart or thoughtful or whatever. And I understand they don't mean when they say that to me, I know that they don't mean it disrespectfully or negatively.
Quincy Amarikwa (27:24):
It's a pleasant surprise to them. But what they also don't understand is being pleasantly surprised all the time means you already had a preconceived notion as to who I am or who the player is before they even showed up. And hopefully that shares with players who are wanting to make their way up the ranks, understand that that bias is there. It's a thing and it is working against you. And you have to understand that and accept it. Like I referenced earlier and use that knowledge as a way to develop a plan to still overcome that, to still make a, make an impact to still, uh, provide value.
Quincy Amarikwa (28:11):
Yeah, because here MSN mentality, no excuses, you know, you can't stop us. We're going to, we're going to make it. We have the right intentions. We have we're we're we're, um, patient. We are, uh, we're humble, but we're also confident and cocky when we need to be, we value ourselves and we value our teammates and we, we uplift, we don't tear down. And in the short term, people can't see people can't see that they're not going to see that, but in the longterm, because we've got that long-term winners mindset, everyone sees eventually maybe not as fast as you'd like them to see, but if you're doing the work and you're doing the work consistently over time, people can deny it in the short term, but in the long-term, if they're denying it, it's not a good look on them. It's not a good look on them anymore.
Quincy Amarikwa (29:11):
And that can be very difficult to believe in and understand when you are trying to make your way in the world. That's, real-world in soccer, you know, um, or other. And, um, yeah, I hope the conversations we've had, the community we've built the processes we've we've, we've developed and talked through and shared are helping, uh, helping, uh, give every audience member in their own way, the tools or the idea, or the, you know, the, the, the strategy or the angle or a tactic to better help them, you know, uh, create value for themselves and, um, and build wealth, build equity right in the game of life and in the game of soccer. And that's what we're doing, that's what we've been doing. And, um, I think our, our investments in ourselves, in our community, in this platform will only grow in value over time. If we continue to do the great work that I believe everybody is, is doing, um, publicly and privately, you know, uh, hopefully we get, we, we push more work to the point that a lot more shown publicly. And I, I, I believe that will come. I believe that will come. And, and that will come as a result of the amazing work that all community members have been doing on their own personal development in their own lives, in their own markets, in their own homes, um, pre pandemic during pandemic and post pandemic. So I'm just got here. Um,
Quincy Amarikwa (31:05):
Quincy Amarikwa (31:05):
Oh, Ben Jammin. What's going on, brother. Yo. Okay. Uh, I'm just now seeing this Ben Ben dot underscore dot gem and J a M M I N said, Quincy, I finished the 10 pushup challenge brother. Congratulate Laotians. Congratulations. What is your, what is it? Uh, I know I promised a prize for the, for the first person to finish the 10 pushup challenge. What is your prize? I don't, I don't remember if I I'd said you can pick what you want or you let me know what, what is an adequate prize for, um, for accomplishing the 10 push-ups challenge, but more importantly, what have you learned as a result of going through the 10?
Quincy Amarikwa (31:57):
Okay. So see, Ben, we'll see if we can try to get you in here and while, uh, let me see if you can join in, we'll get to you the other questions George sent on episode 100, though. I was surprised as how down to earth Ben was great guests for the century episode, um, magnetic frequency, uh, Luca, what's going on, Trevor Willis, uh, Paul with PG sports dropped in. What's going on, brother. How you doing? Uh, shout out Paul. Paul's been doing amazing, uh, to get our perfect soccer podcast episode jumping off that what's going on, man. Look at you're. You're cutting out there a bit. How are you doing brother? Oh, I'm doing good. Nice. Okay. So you've officially, you've officially completed the 10 pushup challenge.
Quincy Amarikwa (32:59):
Yes, I did. Uh, that was the challenge. You challenged everybody to do 10 pushups every single day for six months. And I was able to do that.
Quincy Amarikwa (33:09):
Awesome. And didn't miss a single day? No. And how many, and how many times did you have, how many times did you fail? How many times did you have to start back over?
Quincy Amarikwa (33:18):
I failed once in February and then I started back up against, on like July 2nd and I finished on January 1st.
Quincy Amarikwa (33:28):
Awesome, man. I love that. And how, how far did you get the first time before you, you missed a day?
Quincy Amarikwa (33:38):
Um, I think I actually only made it like three weeks before I failed the first time. And then I kind of gave up after two months and that's when I kind of took the long break.
Quincy Amarikwa (33:48):
Okay. Okay. All right. What about this is good. So what about, so the first time you're excited, you're motivated. You're like I'm going to 10 pushups a day. Easy. No problem, right? Yeah, exactly. That's what you thought. Okay. What, what, what did you realize, like walk us through like the process, like you thought it was easy. No problem. That should be super simple. And you're like, let's do it. How, how did that, how did that happen? How did that, how did it end up three weeks later? You're like, you, you quit on it. You said, nevermind. Like kind of walk us through, like, what was, how did that happen? Yeah.
Quincy Amarikwa (34:33):
Yeah. So, I mean, the, the physical part of the challenge is relatively easy. It's not too difficult to do 10 pushups, or even if you split it up and do like five now, and five later, it's definitely possible to do the actual challenge of it is management and finding the motivation to keep doing it and continuing to do it and not skipping out on a day. So that was the challenge that I had to overcome. Uh, that was a challenge that I faced in the first half and that I had to overcome when I tried it the second time, which I found a system of success, which was simply putting notifications on my phone. And so the first time, first thing in the morning, I would always see, like, you got to do 10 pushups and I would just do the 10 pushups before I did anything. And that way I'd have it out of the way and done, and then I'd do it the next morning. And I just did that for six months. Okay. I love. Okay.
Quincy Amarikwa (35:38):
So that's great. So you, uh, okay. So the first time you didn't really have a plan of execution other than this is easy, I'm just going to do it right. And then three weeks in just the management, you might forget in the morning, then halfway through and now you're tired. And then all of a sudden the mental taxing, this of it makes you stop. And now the, you, you take a break, you pause yourself, reflect on it and go, okay, how do I re attack this same thing? Cause I know physically I should be able to do this. So how do I make it as easy as possible for me to accomplish my goal? And that's not this thing out first thing in the morning when you wake up and set a notification. So I can't forget. And I can't do anything else in the day until I get this one thing done.
Quincy Amarikwa (36:27):
Quincy Amarikwa (36:30):
In doing that. Did you see any results that trickled into other aspects of your life? Like has, has that made things easier, harder? Uh, have you taken that same approach with anything else? Like where, where do you land on all of that now?
Quincy Amarikwa (36:53):
Um, I guess for like important reminders, it's management. And so it has leaked into other parts of my life. Um, little things I can remember easier now. And I know that to commit to something is simply setting up a system of success and it's making it easy for yourself, not just working harder all the time, kind of what we were saying earlier in the episode and pick out any specific examples it's leaked into. It's just kind of been, it's a whole mindset that leaks into everything I guess.
Quincy Amarikwa (37:35):
Okay. Man, I love that. And Paul dropped down to consistency is, is key. Uh, Tony had said MSL strong, uh, dropping you the keys and the flex arm emoji, um, loving that man. Um, okay. So did, once you completed the challenge, are you continuing the challenge? Have you changed, have you you're doing something else? Like where, where, where are you at and how are you? What are you thinking?
Quincy Amarikwa (38:03):
Yes, I've actually up the challenge a little bit. I've decided it would help my physicality a little bit more. So I only upped it to 15 pushups a day, but I've also added, uh, 15 crunches, 15 side crunches on either side and then 30 seconds of planks. And if I can keep that up for six months, I might up it again.
Quincy Amarikwa (38:25):
Oh, okay. I like that. So you didn't quit. You said let's, let's increase it. And I like, okay. I like your approach because in previous, I don't remember what episode number it is. And if someone can, uh, if someone knows which episode number this is and it's right, uh, I'll need to send you something when we talked about setting goals
Quincy Amarikwa (38:54):
And what's interesting is you got the experience of six months at 10 and you said, okay, 15, you didn't say 50 a day now. Right? Like the a hundred a day and all this, you said, okay, I'm going to try 15. And I added the, the, the crunches in the planks. Okay. And you're like, all right. And if I can get to six months, then I'll think about if I want to add more. Right. I think that's an awesome strategy because one you're you're setting goals for yourself, you're pushing yourself, but you're also giving yourself the, the autonomy, the control to, to be able to say no, to do more, if you want or feel it's right. Do less. Right. Like you're in control. And I think that's, what's, I think that's what most people are, are looking for. And they're, they're not getting it when they avoid work, doing something.
Quincy Amarikwa (39:48):
Consistency is what allows you to have control over your life. Right. It's it's what gives you, it gives you something to build around. And I think a lot of people are avoiding work because, because of the fact that they don't have control. Right. It's, it's a weird, it's a weird concept to, to get behind. But I, I liked that, man. I like, I like how you're breaking it down and how you're you're approaching it. So. Okay. So then what is, what is your, your prize for accomplishing the 10 pushup challenge being the first official perfect soccer, uh, 10 pushup challenge champion. Ah that's yeah. Perfect soccer, 10 pushup champion. Love that.
Quincy Amarikwa (40:29):
Yeah. Um, I guess the real prize is just the skill set that comes with, but I do like the hat you're wearing.
Quincy Amarikwa (40:49):
I made the challenge, but when did I,
Quincy Amarikwa (40:58):
You cut out there for a sec.
Quincy Amarikwa (41:01):
I'm sorry. I'm saying, I remember I did the pushup challenge, but I don't remember what I said the price would be for completing it.
Quincy Amarikwa (41:09):
I don't necessarily remember. It was, it was
Quincy Amarikwa (41:14):
Okay. Cool. So, all right. What we'll do is we'll say you have officially earned yourself a mental strength league hat that will be, uh, delivered to your house. I'll need you, uh, shoot us an email, shoot us an email firstname.lastname@example.org. Um, so with your, with your shipping information, so we can, we can get your, your price sent out to you. And then, uh, it's making me realize we need to make like a leader's board and like a champions, uh, perfect soccer champions board on the website. So we'll get your, we'll get your picture in the hat, uh, once you get it and we'll add you, we'll add you to the website as a perfect soccer champion. Um, yeah, I like that. See, okay, there we go. Now we're going to, we'll build this out. And then, um, I like that we can create, uh, challenges and levels to it.
Quincy Amarikwa (42:06):
You know, if you do six months now, you complete the 15 pushup, uh, uh, crunches. Uh, okay. Uh, sorry. Now I'm getting excited. I'm having fun. Cause I said, I want to get back to having fun and enjoying this. Um, you can build out B uh, the, the challenges. So you complete six months and we can create kind of like, uh, uh, accomplishment, badges, and a leaderboard. And you complete this in six months. You, you get this batch, you have this title and we can keep going and you win these prizes and stuff. And that'll be great because now you've got, you've got people who are going to now hopefully try to catch you right. Complete. Yeah. Complete the six months. And now the next six months challenge is, um, like you said, 15 pushups and crunches and all of that. I like this. This is good, man. No good job, man. I'm proud of you. I know. I remember the first time where I remember the first time you said like, man, I missed him and I, I dunno. I'm like, all right, brother, I believe in you. You're going to, you're going to do it. And here we are. That's awesome, man.
Quincy Amarikwa (43:17):
Yes. Well, I mean guess best of luck to anybody out there who wants to take on this challenge for sure.
Quincy Amarikwa (43:26):
Love that. Um, all right. So before, uh, so then I'll, I'll start answering a couple of questions here, but before you, uh, you go, do you have any questions or thoughts? Uh, anything you're wanting to share with the audience, shout out anything you're working on the floor. The floor is yours, man. Okay.
Quincy Amarikwa (43:50):
No, I mean, I'm just, uh, at college right now doing what I do. Yes. Thanks for having me on and inspire me to do this challenge. Thanks for challenging me.
Quincy Amarikwa (44:01):
Awesome man. Well, congratulations. Um, once we get, uh, that email, we'll get all that stuff together and then, uh, I'm juiced, cause I'm gonna, I'm gonna immediately can already talk to Serena about creating the leaders board and tell them the purpose of soccer team. So basically just giving everyone more work in projects and stuff and be like, I'm like, Oh, this is dope. Um, no, I appreciate it, man. Uh, thanks. Uh, thanks for stopping by and letting us know how it went and I'm looking forward to, uh, the, the second level of the challenge,
Quincy Amarikwa (44:29):
Certainly right later,
Quincy Amarikwa (44:32):
Brother. Yep. Thank you. That's awesome. Uh, has anybody else, um, attempted the 10 pushup challenge? Um, and, uh, Ben has been working at that for some time. I'm happy to hear that he officially completed it, but, but Jr had said moral of the story never give up. That is correct. Well done. Um, let's see what we got here. Ben's got a lot of fans, uh, that had joined in, which was awesome to see. Let's see. Let's see.
Quincy Amarikwa (45:21):
Quincy Amarikwa (45:27):
Uh, what's going on Carter burn Kessley. What's up Jay pro skills. What's happening? Eagle word. Welcome Timmy pig. What up? Uh, let's see what we got here. Okay. Julian. I said I've been doing a hundred pushups every day since March 20th, 2020. And I was inspired by the 10 pushup challenge. 25 diamond pushups, 25 wide push-ups twenty-five normal pushups. And twenty-five declined pushups. That is high-level love that consistency. You said March, March, April, may, June, July, August, September, October, November, December, January 10. What nice. Um, and you're saying without fail, you haven't missed a Julian. You haven't missed a single day. Um, for that since March 20th. Oh, Meg, Meg by DJ said I failed with 10 days left. Oh, that's heartbreaking. Um, what, what happened? Like what, what, what got in the way? What, what was it you, you forgotten the morning, uh, you, um, you forgot to set a notification. Like how did you miss how'd you miss it? Um, Joe Jackson said I started the day after the live when you challenged it and failed a couple of times without completing it. Oh, multiple, multiple attempts.
Quincy Amarikwa (46:56):
I think, I think what's most difficult about it is, is, uh, is once you start, you can't, you won't get to the end for six months. So it was like, there's no way to speed up the process, right? Like you, you just have to commit to it and do it. And that's, what's most difficult about it. And I think what can also be difficult is in attempting multiple times and not completing it, you can then become discouraged because your experience you, well, you know, why even try, cause I always fail or I always mess up or I always do this. And I want to caution everyone to, to, um, understand that that can happen. And that is a, that is a potential temporary obstacle that you may face in attempting, um, in attempting, um, the challenge. But hopefully what you're able to take away with Ben is saying, set yourself up for success, create a system of success.
Quincy Amarikwa (48:02):
You know, Ben solution was to set the notification on his phone. And the first thing that he sees in the morning when he touches his phone is do your 10 pushups and knock those out, get it done before you even start your day. Um, is that what you need to set yourself up for success? Are you someone who needs to hire someone to literally come to your house every day and uh, tell you to do the 10 pushups? Do you need to pay for coaching? Do you do, are you the type of individual who can just do it through your own willpower of, of mind? Like everyone is different. We all have our strengths and weaknesses. We're here to practice three S's of self-awareness self honesty, self initiative, self accountability. What is it that you need to set yourself up for success? And um, how can you break down the challenge so that it is, it is
Quincy Amarikwa (48:58):
Quincy Amarikwa (49:01):
You can commit to you. Um, um, uh, uh, I'll give another example. Um, I'm, I'm more consequences base. So I've got to set and make the consequence for myself greater than the act of doing what it is that I'm doing. So, so for instance, if, uh, I'd set the, you know, and this is a super extreme, but if I'm literally going like, all right, if I don't, if I don't, if I miss the date, the 10 pushups on the day and I don't do it, I'll I have to go and spend the night in jail, right? Like I have to go do that and, or I have to publicly commit money to an organization that I do not believe in if you're setting those consequences like that. Uh, that's an approach that works for me because I know I I'm, I I'm, a lot of people are, are, are in the business of avoiding pain, of avoiding, um, consequences. So you know, what you would never want to do or don't want to have to do.
Quincy Amarikwa (50:09):
And if it's between that and doing the 10 pushups, you do the 10 pushups. So that's another technique and approach. So you don't have to go as extreme, um, um, with that. But hopefully given you guys different, there's, there's a lot of ways to accomplish the same goal and we're all different and we all are, have different types of motivations. We have different types of things that, um, demotivate us that uninspired for us. What is it that inspires you? You know, is it rewards, is it accolades? Is it, um, compliments? Is it money? Is it, um, time? Is it, you know, what is it for you and, you know, um, accept yourself for who you are and set yourself up for success. And, um, yeah.
Quincy Amarikwa (51:04):
Quincy Amarikwa (51:07):
Let's see, um, when you get here, um, makes it, I forgot to do that for, I woke up in the morning after a bad night of sleep. Oh, devastating. Um, uh, Julian said at this point, it's a habit. Love that. If th if at this point it's a lifestyle. I don't even know if it's a habit anymore. Definitely lifestyle.
Quincy Amarikwa (51:34):
Um, Papa said, believe in yourself, double fire emojis. Um, and Joe Jackson, I can definitely do it and would have done it. If I set reminders, it was all about lapses of memory in the morning when I might have had something going on that day. Got, you know, I, I definitely, I definitely understand that, right? Like one thing, like as you start to make progress, you start getting new ideas, you get inspired, you think about new things, and then all of a sudden, you, you throw off your own routine. That's what I was talking to serene about. Was it yesterday or the day before? Um, recognizing the point in the process when you're, self-sabotaging, that's a difficult, that's a difficult one too. That's a difficult concept, an idea. And we might need to break that down at another episode, but self-sabotage is real. And the real problem is not being able to see how you sabotage yourself. Um, and I'll have to think through how to break down how you,
Quincy Amarikwa (52:34):
How you understand that.
Quincy Amarikwa (52:39):
Yeah. That's one that you guys would like, um, uh, Donald drop me some spam, a heart button or drop some Jesus' hands, emojis, and, uh, maybe make note, and we can, we can break that down in the next, um, MSL episode. Um, I'm thinking of kind of breaking up the show into a guest MSL, asked a soccer per show, episode guest MSL episode, kind of doing that. Um, yeah, I'm seeing some spam, spam parts coming in, so. Okay, cool. If, uh, yeah. Make note of that. So we can really dive, dive into that, cause I'll need to, I'll need to think about that. You know, you usually think about it on the live and just kind of talk my way through it
Quincy Amarikwa (53:26):
So you guys can see that. So save that one and we'll, we'll, we'll go. Um, our goal is to, to, to continue to grow the number one platform online, uh, for soccer education, um, uh, Ben dropped in the, I mean your head emojis, uh, Popa dropped in the I'm in your head. Emojis love that everybody. Um, I will see you next Thursday. Same time, same place, 6:00 PM, PST 9:00 PM EST. And as always, I mean, you had, uh, later everybody did a thing. Instagram, Instagram, once you go past an hour now, and then they're also changed where everything is, uh, well, that was what you're saying later, but Joe dropped in. Thanks for another live Quincy MSO. One-on-one in full force today. Have a great week. Thank you very much. Popo said waiting for next week. Blame emojis. Julian said thanks with the, to emoji, uh, Ben and everyone is spamming that heart button. I appreciate that everybody. Um, and yeah, I will see you I'll see you next week
Quincy Amarikwa (54:46):